What causes your stress and how do you fight it?
Updated: Aug 5, 2022
Stress affects us negatively in most aspects of our life: emotionally, psychologically, mentally, physically, and even spiritually. This is also one of the reasons for not being able to fall asleep straightaway. There are times when it seems like our minds are too clouded, have been thinking about so many problems and worrying to the point that we can no longer control the brain. One of the biggest factors is stress.
We all have different causes of stress in our lives. It may be financial worries, personal or family
problems, work-related anxieties, studies' challenges, or we may even be trapped in fear of uncertainty. We sometimes overthink or become too worried about what lies ahead of us. These are valid reasons, and no one has the right to judge you for feeling the way you do. Before I go on, please allow me to say that you no one should invalidate what and how you’re feeling. You know yourself better than others.
In the situation of a stressful event, the body is prepared to fight or flee from it. Only until the moment comes that the feeling of threat is totally gone will the body be able to regain its normal state and get to relax again. It is like having 'adrenaline rush' whenever there's a need for survival.
It is difficult to avoid stress especially if we are dealing with challenges everyday. However, if we
don't get to manage it, it will definitely make us feel terrible. Some are really good in handling stress, some are struggling. We are all facing a world of uncertainty and so, all of us are reacting to it in different levels. It boils down to what you believe in, how positive you are as a person and the support you are getting from the people around you.
Stress affects your mental health. There may be a feeling of sudden inclination to burst into tears for no apparent reason. Before it gets worse, maybe you can find the courage to face your fears and accept the things you can't control. The first step is to identify your stressor/s. Once you know it/them, you’ll be able to manage your situation or where appropriate, seek help to support and assist you in the process. The healing process will begin when you start letting go. This will truly help you to fight the stress, fall asleep more easily, and calm your system down. Sometimes, we tend to neglect reflecting about life and figuring out what causes our stress. Take a pause and give the time you need for yourself!
''No man is an island." I mentioned this in one of my other blogs. This is a statement that I have learned to understand over time. As an introvert, I had always loved being alone, always tried to do things on my own and I was used to not sharing what I felt to anyone. That's just how I grew up to be, very much guarded. I built my walls high enough to protect me from getting hurt (or so I thought). Later on, I have come to realise that I was just bottling everything up inside and I was about to explode any moment. Building those walls didn’t do me much good because as I tried to protect myself from hurt, the more that I experienced it. Creating your own world will not protect you from the hardships in the outside world. On the contrary, it will make you more susceptible and vulnerable as every challenge will turn out to be an unfamiliar territory. Without you knowing, your life has become too jaded that you won’t realise that what’s hitting you is only normal.
I’ve come to accept that talking to your trusted friends or family members help a lot, at least to ease the burden you've been carrying all along. I reckon it helps with life's stressors. I have never
believed in it as truthfully before, and I thought I could just keep everything inside of me. When I started opening up, I found out that my burden lessened because the more I talked about it, the more it became manageable or even trivial. Also, listening to other people’s experiences make you understand that you’re not alone. People face their own battles you may not be aware of. You may even reach a point where you realise that you have been stressing about nothing at all.
Once you have taken the first step, everything else will fall into place. In no time, you will get to really focus on how to achieve your inner peace and to comprehend the very purpose of your life. Just remember not to be too hard on yourself and go through the process. As you journey towards your healing, you will appreciate life all the more.
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